Even though the answer to this question is debatable, we can still arrive at “truth”. On the spiritual side, one could argue that there is nothing wrong with guys wearing earrings because we live by grace and God does not judge them based on that; but on the physical side it is not a generally accepted norm for men to wear earrings -simply because it does not speak well of a “man”. Just like cars and clothing, etc send messages, earrings on a man sends messages. Some of these messages say something like: “I am rich and sexy” , “I am too into myself so I like to accentuate my look”, “I am attractive”, “I know I am cute”, etc… AND one of the main purpose for men wearing earrings is actually to impress ladies.
It is not that there is anything particularly wrong with a man wearing earrings, it is the message he sends when he does AND it is also a sign that he is insecure about something and it is quite obvious. Wearing earrings puts more focus on him and tells us of his outward appearance…so why he is seeking so much attention? He is supposed to go after the woman (as it is meant to be) and not try to put so much attention on himself for women to come to him. Although he looks mature, Is he quite mature? Remember that a man is not generally considered beautiful but women were created to not only look beautiful on the inside but also on the outside, they are created to be attractive especially to men (mate). When Adam saw Eve, he was drawn/attracted to her (Genesis 2:23). Then he said…
This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
Why Men Wear Earrings
When a man wears what a woman is supposed to be wearing, it simply says he is not completely confident about his total package/ himself and needs to add more “glitters” to enhance his look. Remember that this has nothing to do with his overall appearance, this is focused on his “head/face”…so he is definately not accentuating any beauty on the outside, that is if he is even handsome or cute. Men who are not full grown (mature in this aspect of their mind)/who wear earrings are simply trying to impress someone. In some cases, they are indirectly trying to show that they are rich, but this is in most cases a mirage. Sadly some men also wear earrings, not for any of these reasons, but for lack of knowledge. There is a saying that goes: “only dogs bark”.
The word handsome refers to someone who is good-looking, attractive or striking. He may be good-looking on the outside but a monster on the inside. Cute, on the other hand, is a term used when someone is attractive in a pretty or endearing way. But who is he?
Are You Really A Man?
Suffice it to say that earrings were not mentioned in the new testament but a man doesn’t have to be told that he is focusing too much on himself to be doing that. It’s the same for women. Why do women do makeup, wear earrings, etc…women are trying to perfect and accentuate their beauty. So for a man to be doing that, he has taken on some qualities of a woman. And if a man is focusing so much on himself by wanting to look “sexy”, how then will he selflessly take care of his woman?
A man ought to be masculine, that is ” having qualities or appearance traditionally associated with men, especially strength and aggressiveness.” The term “man” is also reserved for an adult male, with the term boy being the usual term for a male child or adolescent. A man ought to be grown and mature, able to decide on what is right.
In the case of culture, some men wear earrings in remote areas–not exposed to civilization. But if a man in a civilized country wants to do as the uncivilized is doing simply because he thinks he can argue his way out, then he might as well go back to old-age and forget about civilization, but he can’t have both. If he claims to be civilized, then be civilized.
Egyptian Mentality in Fashion
In the old days, the Egyptians & their kings wore attires and shinny gold ornaments to enhance their appearance, earrings were part of the plan. In fact, part of the gold that was used to make an idol (against God) was taken from earrings. These earrings were worn by the Israelites when they first left Egypt. Obviously they carried this on from Egypt. Interesting it makes mention of “wives” but not “husbands”. So I ask, is he a husband material? Remember that a husband is not just one who is married to a woman, a husband is a man of authority –as granted him by God.
“And Aaron said unto them, Break off the golden earrings, which are in the ears of your wives, of your sons, and of your daughters, and bring them unto me.” Exodus 32:2
The truth is, most men who wear earrings in this part of the world wear it for many reasons including fashion. In the case of fashion he needs wisdom! Most Godly women are turned off by men who wear earrings. Like someone once said diamond studs refer to “diamond stud earrings, not a diamond wearing stud”. There is a huge difference. Generally, men who wear diamond studs are trying to impress you into thinking they are rich and sexy; and to take notice of them. If the man is wearing hoops, chances are he is trying to communicate that he is dangerous or “tough” in some way. (See What Guys are trying to say when they wear earrings). Although they often would say this is just their style, there is a deeply rooted cause for this type, even lack of knowledge, immaturity, and lack of understanding.
A Matter of Wisdom
In as much as this topic is a matter of common sense, one needs to apply wisdom. Let the man consider it and judge for himself. “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.” (James 1:5).
Men wear earrings for many reasons including to impress ladies, “self-projection”, lack of knowledge, immaturity, and lack of understanding, etc.
But we should never judge a man/boy who wears earrings but pray that the will of God will manifest in their lives. It is also possible that God will allow a boy/man to do something for a season and then after that season He would open their eyes to see clearly and to do His will. That being said, we should also hope for change and pray for them so that their decision to wear earrings will not lead others astray.